Carrying the Torch of Desire for Marriage Pt 1

Last week a beautiful single woman shared her frustrations. Another one has been crying again running the long course with that torch she is carrying.  Why the wait God? Why so long?

We do not know.

We only know the struggle is real. The torch can burn sometimes.  How would I know? I have had those days too.

 If we carry the desire for a mate like a torch through months or years it can be heavy to bear.

 Especially on those long lonely stretches when we feel like we’re running alone and even uphill.

Our mental attitude, our outlook is critical during those long stretches of pondering, alone with God.

We pivot at a point of believing or doubting God’s goodness and knowledge of the desires He put there.

After all, if we didn’t have a desire to meet someone, a desire for a life mate and companion, a desire to bond on the level that would fill that need we would be content with the friendships and wonderful families many of us have. But we feel, physically those desires, and I don’t  just mean physical.

 It is the desire the Bible talks about. “A desire fulfilled is a tree of life, but hope deferred, a desire unfulfilled, can make the heart sick.” (Proverbs 13:12)

In Hebrew the word sick means  to be worn, wearing, grieve, pained, sore, become weak, to make prayer.  That makes sense. It is validating to know we can get weary and worn and the pain is so real we ask for prayer. We go to God with a real need He sees.

At this point of need I find hope in Isaiah 30:18  “For the Lord longs to be gracious to you, he rises to show you compassion. For the Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are those who wait for Him.! 

If we are waiting on one side for help, God is on the other side winging the answer and giving us help.  We must trust Him for those answers, for the time, for the knowing what we can bear no matter how long the road seems, How many of us would have thought we could not endure any number of things we have in the past, and although it was hard, we made it. We are better for it. We are stronger people. We don’t ask for the trials but they will come. It is the course of life.