Staying on the Same Page: Questions to Focus a Relationship.
Recently a friend, Cheryl, shared questions she adapted from career goals to focus her relationship with a man she has been dating. It was a good way to review and refocus their growth goals as a couple. What I like about it is taking the time to build a good foundation takes, just that—time. Evaluation and re-evaluation. I remember a story where a builder being prompted to hurry the foundations of a stage in time for production asked,” Do you want it done fast, or do you want it done right?” They postponed the play until the following week.
Agreement Plan/ Discussion
• curfew
• work days
• play/date days
• schedules (work, meetups, church, tennis, friends, family, clients, etc..) and within that schedule, we would 'schedule' additional time during which we would discuss what is going on with us, how we feel we are progressing, what may be bothering us, things we may need clarification about, how each of us is showing up, etc.
What I/we liked about me and my/our relationship in (winter)**.
What can be improved upon?
My/our top five (spring) goals are to _________.
My commitment to me, so that I will be successful is ________.
What will it take for me/us to be successful?
I will take care of me by _______. This will add to my relationship because _______.
The things I admire and acknowledge in my partner are _____.
Questions I have for my partner are ______.
** can be substituted for time period you are evaluating and goaling.
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