Lord of the Ringless

Goldie excerpt from her autobiography

I was reading Goldie Hawn’s autobiography, “Goldie” with Wendy Holden (ghostwriter)  p.197  after her first divorce and costarring in a role with Ingrid Bergman she traveled in Europe.

 

Goldie learns Ingrid's husband Lars has a mistress when they entertain her during a sidetrek on her travels. She meets them in Ingrid's beautiful little home on an island in Norway.

"Does she know he has a lover?" She asked her friend that evening.

“Oh yes,” came the casual reply. “A long time ago. It is just one of those things.”

 

Goldie's thoughts:

 

"Is this my future too? I asked myself sadly. Is this how it ends? Marriage after marriage after marriage before settling for whatever you can get, even if it means knowing there are other people? Is this my fate? Is this the fate of all successful women in Hollywood?

 

I had already seen the loneliness of the female movie star. It is a cross borne by every successful woman in Hollywood. When you are famous no matter how much you try to include your partner, whenever you walk into a room people only look at you. You end up being endlessly apologetic, trying to introduce him, make him feel less excluded. There are very few men who can live with a woman who is, or is perceived to be more powerful than they are."

 

 

My thoughts are I also felt sad reading this. Oh that we lived in a world of faithfulness and love as God intended for a husband and wife. This is why we celebrate the anniversaries of our friends who honor God by their integrity and commitment to one another. It's not easy. Pride is a formidable foe for one let alone two to contend with. Significance,one of the issues. Where do we get our significance as singles or marrieds? The answer, as always, from our Creator, from God. Why? To glorify Him and serve Him. 

 

"even every one that is called by my name; for I have created him for my glory. I have formed him; yea, I have made him,"

Isaiah 43:7

 

Swing by Borders, Lord of the Ringless Booksigning Saturday June 27th

 

Lord of the Ringless

 

 

                & 

 

       Saving Grace

  

     A Double Book Signing

 

    Saturday, June 27th, 1- 4 ^PM

 

    BORDERS

 

2030 Douglas Blvd, Roseville, CA 95661

 

 

 

HI Friends,

Hope you can Swing  by Saturday for the Book Singing. That’s not a typo. Every time a copy of Ringless is bought  the music starts (book psyche 101).  It is music to a book to be out of the box and in the hands of a real person.  I’m sure Greg Cochran, fellow writer and author of Saving Grace a new fiction novel, would agree!

 

The Premise for Lord of the Ringless is:

 

In His Time and for His glory,

He writes the chapters of our story.

 

Live Single Life with Acceptance and Purpose

God has entrusted each with gifts talents to be used with or without mate in life. Bloom where we are planted, field we are in. This day choose life. One day at a time. Invest now in yourself.

 

Under God, whole and united in purpose with Him

We, singles, are whole people. We don’t need to be completed by another. Sometimes the reason we feel someone changes us is because we change, become more exciting feel alive, start doing new things when we meet someone. We wait to bloom unconsciously.

 

Not losing hope you can love again

If you have a dream, a torch of desire, don’t snuff the flame out or let others do that for you- don’t deny your feelings or desires for a companion or life mate. It is God-given and it started at the garden.

 

Or marry at any age, at any time…

 

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SAVING GRACE, Greg’s wonderful novel is about:

 

 

While visiting his hometown, Jake Brodie encounters an angel, who sends him back to 1938 to complete an unknown task. While there, Jake meets his great grandparents, his father as an infant, and comes to blows with his grandfather! Jake discovers that his task is to stop a pedophile sheriff from killing any more children. His task is complicated by Susan, a young Asian widow who falls for him, which poses a problem since Jake is happily married in his own time! Upon returning to his own time, Jake and Susan find a way to resolve their feelings, despite the sixty years separating them!

 

 

Greg Cochran lives in Elk Grove, Ca. with his wife Editha, and children, Geoffrey and Lindsey. He is an active member of St. Peters Lutheran Church, and has been a football and baseball coach in Elk Grove since the 1990’s. Greg works in the pharmaceutical industry, and has enjoyed working in many different specialties. Greg is a native of Pacifica, Ca. Visit Greg at , www.gregcochran.net

 

 

these three remain, Faith, Hope and Love...

 

Lynn Hybels on Nice and Innocuous

Today I heard Lynn Hybels, the wife of pastor Bill Hybels share points from her book, Nice Girls Don’t Change the World. It was a very good message. She talked about the struggle, and emergence, coming into her own before God, becoming the person and using the gifts God gave her and not just fitting into a role, like a cog in the wheel of life…(It was also a reminder what a price pastors and their families can pay to keep a church, especially a megachurch… in good health.) She made several good points and shared traps that many of us can relate to: It’s primo importanta that we understand God’s love for us as individuals… uniquely created by an endearing Heavenly Father who plants dreams in us…and our dreams matter to Him. WE matter to Him. WE pay a price when Ignoring the true gifts and passions God gave us and filling roles and duties. It drains our vitality. In Lynn’s case, she shared her kids got a devoted mom who prayed for them and adored them…but not an authentically engaged mom. Her husband and kids didn’t have a happy, fun, spontaneous woman, a model of strength. Robbing herself, robbed them. Nice girls don’t ask for help or want to inconvenience others. She was always confessing the sin of selfishness and a demanding spirit…ignoring her needs. This led to new questions dealing with ever-present needs around her as she became healthy: “Will they love you if you start honoring your own life?” Face the fear of failing- putting yourself out there even if it disappoints others or herself if she’s not good at what she’s doing or good enough. The trap is to stay put ….so “we don’t disappoint people not being good enough rather than disappoint God by not being obedient enough.” Discerning God’s will and living according to conviction does not keep everyone happy. ( Nice is often innocuous, safe and non-confrontive) She challenged us to be dangerous and strong. Stand up for whatever devalues life and the world around us, the poor and oppressed, the good and the honorable. FEAR MAGNIFIES WEAKNESS AND HIDES POTENTIAL. Choose to talk down fear. So that, when Fear says you’re not experienced or smart enough at your new venture, we respond, “I serve a God who specializes in using people like me.” He makes the weak strong and gives courage to the faint. She closed with 2 golden scriptures of promise: 2 Timothy 1:7 “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” Joshua 1:9 :Have not I commanded you? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid nor dismayed; for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”